So What?

Seriously. “So what?” Two words.

One sentence, or phrase for the English majors and grammar police judging me right now.

So what? Reflecting on my life growing up, I remember distinct events that shaped my development and comprehension of the world. A question strong enough to humble anyone stands out, “So what?”

Sunflowers are dope. That is why they here.

Sunflowers are dope. That is why they here.

Quick reminder, there are people who do much more, with much less. So then it becomes the question of “What does this person have, that I do not?” When you have stumbled, or even fallen in life, what do you do? Do you try and solve your challenges? Do you ask for help? Do you have anyone who can help? What does “help” look like? How long does “help” occur? Do you actually want anything to change, or just a pity party?

I recall a pee wee league football coach’s words for this post. I remember being less than thrilled with the amount of physical conditioning I faced in that 8 year old body, yet his bold attitude stood out to say, “Stop feeling sorry for yourself!” At my man age, I now realize that he was not attempting to shun my feelings, but in fact strengthen my resolve and resilience. I know we all can confirm, life hits like a ton of feathers at times. Heavy. So what is it that you do from here? With the now, and present circumstances that life has presented you? I now realize how many times (It is so many, I have lost count) the people in my life have advocated to be a victor, and not a victim!

Everyday we are faced with choices, and are afforded the opportunity to improve or regress through the decisions we make. We can be swept away in the current of life, by overestimating the consequences of choices. This overestimation then becomes a lack of action, due to the fear of “what if”, and leads to indecisiveness. Life provides results regardless.

The action you choose or ignore will ultimately provide satisfactory or subpar results. If you find your self in times of sadness or even depression, try framing the circumstances in a different manner. I have experienced anxiety and depression episodes, and have discovered various to deal with these challenges. The most effective for me, is using yoga + meditation, along with reading, exploring new hobbies, and trying new activities. It reinforced for me that I am the only person capable of changing my life in a healthy manner. (Click here and consider buying The Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga by Deepak Chopra) No matter how much love, affection, and positivity someone could provide to me, the change starts within me. So now-a-days when things get a little difficult, I take a step back and ask myself

“So What?”

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