Overcoming your Imposter!
You are FAKING, are you not? Faking you are okay. Faking your level of happiness. Faking at well, life.
I know we both have heard the cliche “fake it, until you make it”. Which, sometimes is necessary, but how long are you supposed to fake it? When exactly will you make it? If you do not have semi-centuries or eternity to wait, I would strongly suggest you stop faking it and overcome your imposter! Yes, imposter! You are probably one of two people;
You are possibly the person who fakes their way into contentment,
or a person who is discontent from facing your internal imposter.
Are you currently living life scared that you will lose your possessions and lifestyle because you are lacking ability? Are you, on the opposite hand, scared that you will not be able to maintain a certain lifestyle because you are not good enough?
Whichever side of this coin you fall on, it is past time you actualize and remember who you are (or may not be!).
If you are on the side of faking it out of fear, let me be the first to tell you, you are not helping anyone. Not even yourself. I do not care how much money you are making, or the connections you currently have you are harming yourself, and your long term stability by faking to fit within the mold.
Furthermore, STOP IT. No, I am serious as stubbing your toe in the middle of the night. STOP IT. You are without a shadow of doubt, and all those other confirmation ad-lib’s, harming yourself. By not living up to your potential, you are damaging the unique spirit and ability that you possess. You are forfeiting your gift and talents. Essentially casting who you are at your core, to the wayside for an ancient reason. I choose ancient here, because the behavior you are displaying at this moment is history.
Dead and gone, ground, now used for fertilizer for the current and best version of you.
The you, that is existing in this moment. You are discontent with your current circumstances. I know the feeling. Trust!
I recall my days as a store clerk in a new travel stop for one of the largest retailers of gas in America. This travel stop was equipped to handle the strongest current of general travelers, to even the heaviest of commerce traders. I was the youngest employee, while attending school during the day, and working overnight. I quickly became aware of many things within this store, a few were as follows;
Your temporary job, is another wo(mans) life time sentence with no parole.
Your job title does not always adequately reflect your talent or value.
Upon working in this job for close to a year, and one day it clicked. I had managed to get off of nightshift, and onto the evening shift. In this particular company, the Operations Managers role would be positions offered as training program for those who had ambitions to be managers of stores in the future. (So one step below the General Manager, but still above the shift leads). I remember finding myself having to manage, or essentially guide the Operations manager in what he should be handling during his shift.
“Oh really? Why were you doing that? Should have took his job??”
Yea, well I also remember them PLAYING about a .25 cent raise.
So instead of returning like a disgruntled employee, hell bent on destruction of property and criminal charges, I remained calm. I used my paid time off to search for, successfully interview for, and started my next job where they paid me more.
Face 2 Face with the imposter!
This was the first time in my adult life that I begin to overcome my imposter! The eternally spooky Imposter is a myth planted in our subconscious by people older than us in our adolescence. The Imposter is buried in our subconscious from people constantly bombarding us with caution, or their projection of their unwillingness to try. Yes, some warnings were necessary, but at least 60% of what you learned growing up has to be unwound from your mind in order for you to be a healthy adult.
In life, you must face your fears and challenges head on. If you do not, you will constantly be hounded by life’s lessons until you are exhausted, confused, unhappy, and feeling out of control of your circumstances. The Imposter is all of the people who simply, do not live your life, walk in your shoes, or who you will transition to the next life with. The Imposter can be overcome by identifying who YOU are as an individual. Choosing the best decision for yourself, creates healthy results and interactions with the people around you.
Ultimately, you have to identify your strengths and build other talents that you enjoy. Overcome the Imposter, and step up to the plate. Stop faking it, to make it. You are talented. You are what you say you are. Show faith in yourself, and your abilities. You have the experiences of life to level up. Overcome your imposter.
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