Moving out & On Part Twosion

Are you ready for part two of moving out & on?

Part one’s emphasis was decorated with tips and reminders for moving out of your old residence, and hopefully into your new space!

“But Golden, the title is called ‘Moving Out AND On’”

How observant of you! I should have known nothing would get past you… Pull up your bifocals, cause in part twosion or part two; the conclusion I will be testing your memory skills!

Remember that story I said I would save for another day ALL THE WAY back in my first blog post? < - If you need a refresher, or just need to see the first post click there. <

Quick summary? I spoke about the stagnancy I found myself facing during a romantic relationship, and how I adjusted in life after that relationship.

I mentioned how I had found peace and contentment in my life, “or so I thought”. Part Twosion is dedicated to moving on in life!

You know there will be a whole story attached, so if you’re gonna take this content and make it an ‘for tv movie’ call me first so I can play myself in the film.

Moving day had came, and it was time to move out, but a quick picture doesn’t hurt any one right?

So boom! *smacks fists*

I had found peace and contentment, or so I thought right? Well, life told me I have to be quicker than that.

After ending my relationship with the bubbly young woman from my university in March of 2018, I tried some time remaining single which I managed for roughly 9 months until, well.. keep reading. In May of 2018, I walked the stage. In June of 2018 I was searching for more rewarding employment, and in July 2018 I quit my job, and moved back to Texas to work with my mother.

This was a leap of faith, as I had not secured a place to call my own prior to moving. (10 out of 10 would not recommend)

Anyway, lets keep going in the story.

So one day around October I come across a beautiful young woman on my favorite app, Twitter! After about a month of it going down in the DM (conversations were dope, duh), we decided we should meet up in person. At this time I was living in Fort Worth with a family friend, and she in Dallas.

Our first date, we went to a Cider bar that featured all types of videos games. I was impressed, myself a gamer, meeting someone who could not only compete, but best me at the video games we played that night. Keeping it simple, we attended a nearby Waffle House in which we continued to hit it off. It was refreshing to meet this young woman after the way my last relationship deteriorated.

Here is my disclaimer, serial relationship-ing is a real thing, and it is best to invest time with the intention of gathering your self together OUTSIDE OF ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS.

Fast forward to our second date.

For our second outing, we attempted to go to the movie theater. Which would have been fine, had we not arrived at two different theaters. After I drove to the theater she was at, we quickly realized these days, you have to reserve your ticket online in most places. We end up talking in the car for a few hours before going to IHOP, cause pancakes. It had gotten late really quickly, and before I knew it, I found myself in the front seat of my car, staring into her eyes. I had a feeling in which I only remember few times before in my life.

As she said her goodbye’s, she opened the door, I grabbed the lining of her jacket and pulled her in for a kiss.

I don’t know about you, but kissing is a huge, personal, and intimate act. In that moment, I knew I wanted to be in a relationship with this young woman. This is around November.

Here’s where the story gets interesting. We began seeing each other more frequently. I mean making two hour trips across north Texas multiple times a week.

It is now December and although things had been going well, she seems uneasy this night. After a moment of silence, she reveals that just prior to meeting me, she had ended a long term relationship with a person whom she lived with for several years. This would worry some to the point they would just completely run.

Can you guess what I did?

Although she had just recently ended her relationship, and I wasn’t too far off from my previous relationship, I asked her to be my girlfriend. I mentioned in this post how I feel about kissing right? She was the first woman in my adult life that I had ever officially asked to be my girlfriend.

I knew it was serious, and I was convinced I would marry this woman.

(Note I said I ended a relationship 9 months prior myself, but this was the first woman I had asked to be my girlfriend as an adult. Strange how we find ourselves in “situationships”)

“HOW GOLDEN?! YOU JUST MET HER?!”

Well, apparently everyone thought that, but me. {Slaps own face}

Infatuation is real! I was so enamored by her spirit, and overall enjoyable company, that I overlooked the red flags. I will always take responsibility for my actions, as it takes two to tango! The major red flag I ignored was how recently she had ended her relationship, if nothing more.

Although, at one point in our relationship I identified our indifference’s, it had become apparent the relationship could not be salvaged.

The lesson to take away from this experience is investing time into your healing your self after the ending of your relationships.

I realized many of our arguments were due to our expectations. These expectations for behavior stemming from our previous relationships.

It was now clear that neither of us had taken the time to properly move on, and regain ourselves. I say regain ourselves because often times we are consumed by unhealthy relationships. We are often affected mentally, physically, or both in these relationships, and we must move on and take the time to recover our health.

Being in an unhealthy relationship in ANY area of living can negatively impact the quality of your life.

All of that said, I am happy to be residing in the space I am currently in. I am thankful for the direction of growth I am experiencing!

I am a firm believer in the motions of the universe. Everything has a frequency and vibration. Each human produces their own magnetic field. When your energy is disturbed or not flowing well, you experience fatigue, exhaustion, sickness, and other ailments. This is synonymous with feeling depressed, anxious, or other issues that you may experience from unhealthy relationships.

It is important to take the time to heal your body. Give yourself permission to remove negative energies and feelings you are harboring, recovering from relationships that have placed you in unhealthy situations.

Take the time to not only move out, but MOVE ON!

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